What you will get: A story about Gintare and perfectionism
“It’s just not good enough!”
Once again Gintare finds herself criticizing her own results.
The target was 80%
She achieved 90%.
But all her energy and attention was focused on the 10% she didn’t achieve.
“Why didn’t I get 100%? Why didn’t I do better?” were the dominating thoughts in Gintare’s head.
Ginatre’s parents brought her up to believe that she must always be the best at whatever she does. Coming second doesn’t count.
And in may ways this has given Ginatre some good things…
A desire to achieve.
A passion for improvement.
A drive to be better.
But sadly for Gintare, this has developed into the need to be perfect.
And you and I know…
Perfectionism is a disease.
It is impossible.
And it feeds unhappiness.
That’s why whenever Gintare succeeds it is never good enough.
And what’s worse…
It doesn’t just impact on herself.
She expects the same from her team. So she always focuses on what they could do better, never stopping to recognize what they are already good at.
A demotivated team with low levels of loyalty.
And then of course…
Like an unwanted guest in her house, the perfectionism creeps into Gintare’s personal life.
She wants to control her eating (everyone apart from Gintare can she is too thin).
She wants to control her friendships.
She wants to control her environment.
So her new car with a small scratch causes her lots of anxiety and irritation.
The waiter who spills the wine triggers anger in her.
The plane that is delayed is simply unacceptable!
So you see…
This unrealistic need for perfectionism creates misery in so many aspects of Gintare’s life…
She wants to control things she can’t.
She wants the perfect looks, so there is always something wrong with her appearance.
She expects perfect results, so is always disappointed with her performance and the performance of others around her.
And the tragic thing is…
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Perfectionism is a choice.
It comes from outdated beliefs and low self worth.
And beliefs are not facts.
You change your beliefs.
You change your self worth.
You change your life.
Sounds simple right?
Well actually it is.
There are 3 steps involved in banishing perfectionism from your life…
1 – Realise and accept you have it.
2 – Create an action plan using tried and tested tools to change your beliefs.
3 – Do it!
(I’ll be sharing with you the details of how to do this at my free webinar on self worth)
And you and I know that a perfect world is a dull world right?
Imagine a world were everything was perfect…
Everything went as planned.
Nothing unpredictable ever happened.
Everyone looked and behaved in a perfect way.
Pretty boring don’t you think?
And a world full of imperfection gives colour, variety, different emotions and a rich template for learning.
And what’s more…
It is full of healthy beliefs.
“I’m ok if I do my best.”
“Good enough is good enough.”
“It’s ok to let go sometimes.”
So, I’m off to give today my best shot and be fully content with that.
How about you?
To your success.
P.S. Have you registered yet for my next free webinar?
“Self Worth – Your Key to a Happy, Successful Life”
When? Sep 3, 2015 4:00 CET at:
In this lively, interactive hour Steve Neale will help you understand the real importance of self worth. Learn how all successful leadership is rooted and self worth and come away inspired with a toolkit to review, refresh and boost your self worth. Perhaps the most important webinar you will ever attend.
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