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The 4 R’s

What you will get: An overview of the 4R Life Roadmap




Otherwise known as the 4 R’s.


Something I came across on a recent NLP training course I did with Lizzi Larbalestier. (Neuro Linguistic Programming – if you never heard of it before google it and you’ll find it’s BIG)


Now Lizzi presented them…


as the foundation of successful NLP.


I think they are bigger than that. I think they are a road map for life.


So what do they stand for?




Let’s take a look at each in turn….


Respect is about acknowledging and valuing what you and others bring. Respect also forms an important foundation on my
Limbic Performance System
leadership model.


In order to be a great leader of yourself, you first need to respect yourself.


And in order to build successful, lasting relationships with others, you first must respect them.


And what about Recognition?


Well it’s all about realising we are all different and treating people as
would like to be treated. Kind of an update on the old cliché “treat others as you would expect to be treated yourself.” Actually, it’s far wiser to treat others as they would expect to be treated themselves.


And then there’s…


This is all about going through life being curious and not critical. Realising that there is no simple right and wrong, and adding choice and opportunity and ideas to the short time you spend on this planet.


And of course there’s responsibility.


Talking responsibility for…


…your own actions.
…your choices.
…your destiny.


Responsibility is kind of the opposite of “Victimitis” – believing and acting like you are an innocent victim of circumstance throughout life and can change nothing.


So the jury’s out – are the 4R’s simply an ethical code to be used by NLP Practitioners?


Or do they provide a road map for how to live your life?


What do you think?


I’m off to respect, recognise, reassure and be responsible.


How about you?


To your success







Steve Neale
“Europe’s Leading Expert on Personal and Professional Growth”


Psychologist, Executive Coach, EI Practitioner, Award Winning Trainer, International Author, Psychodynamic Therapist, Hypnotherapist, Mindfulness Instructor, International Speaker, Creator of the LPS, Creator of the Accredited Masters in High Performance Leadership

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