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You are not dead

What you will get: An important reflection on death and regret


“There are 2 guarantees in life”


One is change.


The other is death!


Yes, sorry if I sound a tad pessimistic. But you are going to die (not right now, don’t panic!!).


Now rather than seeing this as bad news (sorry if you are in shock right now), why not see it as a chance to focus on life.


The way I see it…


Far too many people are left on their deathbeds full of regret.


In fact…


Several years ago, Bronnie Ware, a nurse who spend many years working with terminally ill patients, decided to ask her patients what their biggest regrets about life were.


And then she wrote an article about the top 5 regrets (surprisingly called “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying” !)


And what do you think the biggest regrets of dying people are?


What do you think people regret most about their lives?


Well here they are…


And as you read through these please take a moment to think if any of these are in any way true for you.


1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.


Powerful stuff, eh?


Now here’s the good news…


You are not dead. (Phew!)


So if there is just a tiny piece of truth in any of the above statements in relation too your life – change it!


You see…


When your time finally comes, do you think you will be lying on your deathbed reflecting on the latest smartphone and how much happiness it brought you?


Or how much you loved spending time on social media as it increased the quality of your life?


Or perhaps your greatest happiness in life came from all the extra hours of work and stress you endured so you could have a bigger car?


I don’t think so!


You and I know that what really matters is love, connection, giving from the heart, sharing and the pure joys of the simple things in life.


So I’m off to make sure I have no regrets in my life, how about you?


To your success.







Steve Neale
“Europe’s Leading Expert on Personal and Professional Growth”


Psychologist, Executive Coach, EI Practitioner, Award Winning Trainer, International Author, Psychodynamic Therapist, Hypnotherapist, Mindfulness Instructor, International Speaker, Creator of the LPS, Creator of the Accredited Masters in High Performance Leadership

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