How to Worry Well
What you will get: To learn how to worry well.
“Baby don’t worry…about a thing…”
Coz every little thing, gonna be alright!
At least that’s what Bob Marley said.
Unfortunately, Bob’s advice doesn’t work.
You see…
Telling someone who is worrying not to worry is a bit like telling an Italian not to eat his mamma’s homemade pasta because it is unhealthy. It won’t work!
The problem is worrying creates stress. And stress can cause problems such as raised blood pressure, sleepless nights and digestion problems.
And problems in the gut lower your immune function, so you get ill.
And that gives you even more to worry about!
Once upon a time…
Lots of worrying was a good thing.
Thousands of years ago, worrying about real threats (no food, sabre-toothed tigers and savaging tribes, for example) ensures our survival.
You see…
The idea of “man the hunter” is a bit of a myth.
We have survived as a species by being “man the cautious coward who keeps his head down and avoids danger whenever possible.”
So like I said, once upon a time, worrying helped us survive.
Problem is…
For those of us in the developed world, we don’t need to worry anything like as much as we used to.
Last time I looked, for example, the most dangerous thing we could come across on our way to work is a really awful Starbucks coffee.
But, as I said, simply saying “Don’t worry” to someone who worries too much is not the answer.
Instead, you can teach yourself to worry well.
So imagine…
That you keep all of your worries firmly locked away in a secure box. And you are allowed to let all of your worries out of your closed worry box for just 15 minutes a day.
And when…
You let them out, ask yourself these questions…
“What am I worried about?”
“What’s the worst that could happen?”
“What’s the best that could happen?”
“What things are under my control now that I can do to lessen the worry?”
“What things are not under my control that I can lock away back in my worry box and forget?”
And remember…
Whether you are worrying about your kids, a relationship issue or a business decision…
It’s only a small thing in the bigger scheme of things.
Just take a look up at the stars tonight if you need reminding that we are just but a tiny dot in a big universe…
And your worrying about a particular thing is just a tiny dot in your overall life.
I’m off to have a worry free day.
How about you?
To your success
Steve Neale
“Europe’s Leading Expert on Personal and Professional Growth”
P.S. Watch this space for some very exciting news coming soon!
Psychologist, Executive Coach, EI Practitioner, Award Winning Trainer, International Author, Psychodynamic Therapist, Hypnotherapist, Mindfulness Instructor, International Speaker, Creator of the LPS, Creator of the Accredited Masters in High Performance Leadership
