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Who vs What

What you will get: Clarity on the vital difference between self worth and self confidence


“It changed my life!”


As I sat and listened, I knew something changed inside of me.


One of those special “WOW” moments that create a paradigm shift in your beliefs that change the way you see the world.




It was about 12 years ago, and I was sat listening to a guy called Tim Sparrow explain the difference between self worth and self confidence.


You see…


These two important concepts often get misunderstood and confused.


Self worth is about who you believe you are.


Self confidence is about what you do.


Now I’m going to say something you may find really odd…


“As long as you have high self worth, it doesn’t matter if you have low self confidence!”


Hang on a minute!


Before you decide that I have gone crazy, please let me explain.


Let’s say you asked me to climb a rock face today, with no training or experience. And then you asked me where my self confidence to do the task was on a scale of 1 to 10.


I would say 1 out of 10.


I have never climbed before.
I don’t know how to climb.
I have no idea how to even start!


So what!


I have low self confidence for this task. But I have high self worth (something I chose to develop over the years).


I am happy with my strengths.
I am happy with my faults.
I am happy with who I am.


And with this high self worth, I never need to prove myself at any tasks. Or to any person.


Sure, it would be nice to learn how to climb.
So maybe you teach me and in 6 months my confidence is at 8 out of 10.


So what!


My belief in who I am is, and always will be, more important than my confidence to perform specific tasks.


And that’s why is astonishes me…


That our education systems and workplaces focus so much on what people do and so little on who people are.


I’m not saying what you do is not important – but who you believe you are is MUCH more important.


And here’s the great news…


The more content you become with who you are, the more open you are to trying and learning new things.


What’s the worst that could happen? You don’t succeed and learn something valuable in the process!


And that’s why…


It’s only people with low self worth who need to boast and act in an arrogant and over confident way.


It’s as if they need to prove themselves to the world in order to feel ok about themselves.


But with high self worth, you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone.


With high self worth…


You are humble.
You are content.
You are more likely to have more respect and less judgment of others.


So isn’t it time you prioritised the amount that you value yourself?


It might just be the greatest gift you ever gave yourself.


Your success partner







Steve Neale
“Europe’s Leading Expert on Personal and Professional Growth”


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